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In Loving Memory


Esther Louise (Houghtaling) Gabelein, born July 14, 1921, to Thomas and Faye (Andrews) Houghtaling, left us for a better place on October 14, 2019. She was the third-born of their eight children. Though born in Bellingham, she moved to Coupeville with her family at the age of five and spent the rest of her life on Whidbey Island. Growing up with five brothers, she admitted to being a bit of a tomboy to her mother’s dismay as she hung from monkey bars in a dress among other antics. She had her first plane ride at an early age with the aid of her Grandfather Andrews who arranged the flight in a friend’s biplane. She had other rides in jet planes over the years and at the age of 90 she flew in a small plane over Whidbey giving the pilot a verbal tour of the land below. Her one regret was not taking a ride in a helicopter.

Esther attended Coupeville schools until her senior year when the family moved to South Whidbey. She had planned to study nursing after graduation. Instead she met Harvey Gabelein and after a short six-week courtship, she married him and instead spent many hours nursing Harvey and their children through all kinds of medical problems. The only time Harvey agreed to see a doctor after an injury, he developed blood poisoning. Harvey and Esther settled into a small house on ten acres near his brothers and uncles above Useless Bay. They acquired twenty adjacent acres where they farmed and raised dairy cows, shipping cream to the Fairmont Dairy and then milk to Darigold. Mom raised a large garden every year, canning fruit and vegetables for winter. She milked cows along side her husband until they switched to Angus cattle registered to Harv-est Farm. Harvey died of an aneurysm in 1978 at the age of 59, leaving Esther a widow for over 40 years. She continued to live on the same property until she went to live with Janice and Brian, her daughter and son-in-law, in 2017.

Esther was an avid sports fan and watched many televised games of baseball, football, soccer, golf and the Olympics. She also read five to seven books a week until just before her death. For many years she played bingo and won more often than her fellow players liked. She could play nine cards at a time. She had a talent for sewing, making most of her daughters’ clothes while they were young. She was also a talented baker well known for her fruit cakes and date nut roll candy each Christmas. She was an adventurous traveler, flying to Adak, Alaska after Harvey’s death to visit her son, Jim and his family. She took a train and the ferry back to Washington, sleeping on the deck. She and her friend George later took trips to California and the Southwest.

Esther was preceded in death by her husband, Harvey, her son, Jim, son-in-law, Ben Lanphere, granddaughter, Kristen Lee, grandsons Andy Lanphere and Donald Gabelein as well as sisters, Harriet Clark and Hazel Williams, brothers, Tommy, Hank and Bill Houghtaling and her parents. She is survived by brothers, Al and Claude Houghtaling, sister-in-law’s, Dottie and Peggy Houghtaling; daughters, Janice Martin (Brian), and Karen Lanphere and daughter-in-law, Jennie Gabelein (Larry Johnson), grandchildren, Jon Martin (Kim), Tammy Parker, Kari Svendsen (John), Annette Monary (Andy), Connie Gabelein and Shirley Lanphere, eight great grandchildren and ten great-great grandchildren. There are also nieces and nephews and their families too numerous to count.

We want to thank the Hospice personnel who were so caring and helpful to Mom and us during her last few days. We request that in lieu of flowers, you send a contribution to PeaceHealth Foundations.

An elderly woman wearing sunglasses smiles from inside a small plane.

"Family members love to remind me that I inherited my fearlessness, drive and stubbornness from Grandma Esther. She taught me that I could grow up to be anything and anyone I wanted and to never let anyone tell me otherwise. Grandma inspired me each and every day and I will miss hearing her amazing stories at our family reunions." 

Connie, Esther’s granddaughter