Topic Overview

The behavior of an emotionally abusive parent or caregiver does not support a child's healthy development and well-being—instead, it creates an environment of fear, hostility, or anxiety. A child is sensitive to the feeling, opinions, and actions of his or her parents. Emotionally harmful attitudes may include the following.

Showing a lack of regard for the child

This behavior often includes rejecting the child by:

• Not showing affection.
• Ignoring the child's presence and obvious needs.
• Ignoring the child when he or she is in need of comfort.
• Not calling the child by his or her name.

Saying unkind things to the child

Emotionally abusive parents say things or convey feelings that can hurt a child deeply. Common examples include:

• Making the child feel unwanted, perhaps by stating or implying that life would be easier without the child. For example, a parent may tell a child, "I wish you were never born."
• Ridiculing or belittling the child, such as saying, "You are stupid."
• Threatening the child with harsh punishment or even death.
• Continuous verbal abuse.
• Comparing the child to siblings or peers.
• Blaming the child for family problems.

Creating an emotionally unhealthy environment

Some emotionally abusive parents place ill-advised or impossibly difficult expectations on their children, such as:

• Encouraging the child to commit immoral or illegal acts.
• Pressuring the child to grow up too fast.
• Expecting the child to perform beyond his or her capability or maturity.
• Isolating the child from family and friends.