Grief & Loss
No amount of knowledge can prepare us for bereavement. Grief is the most intense and enduring emotion we can experience. No quick fix. No short cut. An ancient African saying is "There is no way out of the desert except through it."
Knowledge helps us avoid the major pitfalls of grief. A knowledge of what is known of grief assures us that we have not lost all sense of sanity.
The Mechanics of Grief
Grief Work, Stages and Phases. Several blueprints or theories about grief have been proposed.
- Sigmund Freud began with the concept of having to do 'grief work'. That is, a specific job should be finished before the next job begins.
- Elizabeth Kubler Ross defined five overlapping stages as Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.
- J.W. Worden refers to four tasks of mourning: Accepting the reality of the loss, experiencing the pain, adjusting to a life without your loved one and finally being able to invest your emotional energy into a new life.