Characteristics of Children Who Bully
Children who
bully:1
- May witness physical and verbal violence or
aggression at home. They have a positive view of this behavior, and they act
aggressively toward other people, including adults.
- May hit or
push other children.
- Are often physically strong.
- May
or may not be popular with other children around their same age.
- Have trouble following rules.
- Show little concern for
the feelings of others.
Many bullies think highly of themselves. They like being looked up
to. And they often expect everyone to behave according to their wishes.
Children who bully are often not taught to think about how their actions make
other people feel.
Some children both bully others and are bullied. They may have been
bullied and then lash out at others.
Young people who bully are at a higher risk for smoking tobacco in
middle school and drinking alcohol throughout their school years.2
Children who bully are at risk for school failure and dropout and
for committing criminal acts later in life.1
Bullying behavior is a "red flag" that a child has not learned to
control his or her aggression. A child who bullies needs
counseling to learn healthy ways to interact with
people. Professional counseling can guide a child through discovering why
bullying is hurtful. Through this process, a counselor can encourage a child to
develop empathy, which is being sensitive to and understanding the feelings of
others. In some cases, follow-up counseling may involve the parent. Family
counseling has been shown to help reduce anger and improve interpersonal
relationships in boys with bullying behavior.3