Teen Relationship Abuse
Abuse in dating
relationships is common among teens. In the United States, 33% of teens
reporting some kind of abuse and 12% reporting physical abuse.16
Teen dating abuse is like
domestic violence in adults in that it also is a
pattern of abusive behavior used to control another person. Teen dating abuse
can include emotional or mental abuse, sexual abuse, and physical abuse.
For teens, relationship abuse often takes the form of extreme
possessiveness and jealousy. Abusers try to manipulate their dating partners by
making all the decisions, putting them down in front of friends, threatening to
kill themselves, stalking them, or forcing them to have sex.
Like
adult domestic violence, teen relationship abuse affects all types of teens,
regardless of their how much money their parents make, what their grades are,
how they look or dress, their religion, or their race. Teen relationship abuse
occurs in heterosexual, gay, and lesbian relationships.
Unlike
adult domestic violence in which women are more often the victim, in teen
relationship abuse both boys and girls report abuse about equally.17 But boys tend to start the violence more often and use
greater force.17
The pattern of abuse in
teens is often similar to adult abuse with repeated violence that escalates
over time. Often, the abuser quickly apologizes and promises to change.
Sometimes teens do not have the experience or maturity to recognize that they
are involved in an abusive relationship.
Relationship abuse not
only poses direct dangers for teens but also puts them at risk for other
problems. Teens who experience violent relationship abuse are more likely to
take sexual risks, do poorly in school, and use drugs and alcohol. Girls are at
higher risk for pregnancy,
sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and suicide
attempts.17
If you question whether your
relationship might be abusive, see the Signs of Domestic Violence section of
this topic. There are many resources available for teens. If you think you
might be in an abusive relationship, talk to your parents or another adult
family member, a school counselor or teacher, or call the National Domestic
Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233).