Victim of physical abuse
Both men and women can become victims of physical abuse. You are not to blame. No matter what you did, violence against you is never okay.
Physical abuse may include hitting, pushing, shaking, slapping, kicking, pinching, choking, strangling, and burning or threats to hurt you, your family, or pets. Drugging you with medicine, tying you up, and physical punishment of any kind also are types of abuse. The act of violence may come from a stranger, acquaintance, or from a close friend or family member. Many victims of violence know their attacker.
Physical abuse causes bodily injuries, such as bruises, burns, fractures, cuts, punctures, or organ damage.
It may be hard for you to ask for help or talk about the abuse. There are many reasons you may feel this way. Abusers often use psychological, emotional, and physical abuse along with apologies, promises, and affection to control their victims. You may feel confused and hold on to the hope that your abuser will change. Your abuser may ask for forgiveness, make promises to stop, act loving, or buy you gifts. Along with painful times, there may be loving moments and happy memories. Your abuser may be a good provider or parent.
Once abuse starts, it usually gets worse if steps are not taken to stop it. If you were physically abused or were injured by the abuse, seek help and continue to get help for yourself for as long as you need it. This may be hard, but know you are not alone. Contact your local adult protective agency, police, or a health professional, such as a doctor, nurse, or counselor. You can also call a local rape crisis center or a local mental health clinic. Any of these people can help you deal with your feelings, get medical treatment if needed, and take steps to stop the abuser. Resources are available for help.
| Author: | Jan Nissl, RN, BS | Last Updated: January 18, 2008 |
| Medical Review: | William M. Green, MD - Emergency Medicine Brigid McCaw, MD, MS, MPH, FACP - Family Violence Prevention | |
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